Virtually every breakup hurts. It may even hurt longer than expected but be rest assured that the painful feeling that comes with a breakup will not last forever.
Most persons make the mistake of rushing into a new romantic relationship immediately due to fear of being alone, but you should go through this period alone.
You need to find time to heal before going into another relationship to avoid the mistakes you made in the previous one that caused the breakup.
No doubt, you will miss your partner so much; sometimes you will feel like calling to beg for forgiveness especially when you know you’re not at fault, or you never anticipated it.
Here are three things you could do to help you get over that heartbreaking breakup:
1. GET BUSY: Find yourself a project and focus on it. And any time your mind comes back to the fact that you have lost that special person in your life, you go back to your project. You could occupy yourself with projects like writing, community development, innovations, active sports, adventure, and reading.
Dispel every romantic thought from your mind, because it will only remind you of the pains you have gone through and eventually depress you. Occupy yourself with some motivational materials that will give you the conviction that all hope is not lost.
2. KEEP YOUR DISTANCE: Even if you and your ex have decided to stay as friends, break away completely from each other after the breakup. This means no visit; no being around his or her family members and friends; if you two have mutual friends, avoid them for a while. No text, no phone calls, no e-mail, no Facebook.
Of course you don’t have to stop talking forever, but you need to cut off communication for as long as it takes to get completely over your ex.
3. GET RID OF THINGS THAT REMIND YOU OF YOUR EX: Both of you have been together for sometime, so it’s expected there are things that will remind you of your ex. It might be a song, a smell, a sound or even a place. Having these thoughts or items around can make it harder for you to recover from the breakup.
Remove everything that gives you heartache or “stomach turn.” Trust me, it can work wonders to clear your space of all these items.
There’s nothing wrong with keeping a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewellery that was given to you by your ex. But for the meantime, try putting it away until you have gotten over the relationship.
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